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5 ways to finding your purpose


Ever feel like something is missing, even when things seem to be going well? Many of us reach a point in life when we start wondering if there’s a deeper meaning, something that makes us feel truly fulfilled.


I want to share with you a beautiful concept from this country called ikigai – loosely translated as “a reason for being.” It’s a guiding principle that can help us live with purpose, energy, and joy, even on challenging days. I see it every day in the eyes, actions and voices of the people who live here.

 

So, What Exactly Is Ikigai?

Imagine a place where four elements meet: what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for. This unique intersection is your ikigai. It’s different for everyone—some people may find it in their work, others in a hobby or through serving their community. Discovering your ikigai brings a sense of harmony and satisfaction that’s deeply fulfilling because it aligns with the core of who you are.


Why Is Ikigai important?

At its heart, ikigai is about finding joy in life’s journey, not just its destinations. Research shows that people who live by their ikigai tend to be healthier, happier, and live longer. It’s no coincidence that in Japan’s “Blue Zone”—places where people often live to be 100 or more—residents credit their ikigai as a reason for their vitality. When we have a sense of purpose, it becomes easier to embrace each day, no matter the challenges.

 

How Ikigai can transform your life

When you discover your ikigai, life becomes lighter, more energized, and far more meaningful. You wake up with a sense of purpose that infuses your daily routine with joy, resilience, and focus.

 

Here are five strategies that have made a difference in my life and the lives of those I’ve coached. I hope these help you explore what lights you up and sets you on a path toward a life rich with purpose.


1. Explore your unique strengths and passions

Most of us overlook our strengths because they come naturally to us, but those talents often hold the key to our purpose. Reflect on activities that bring you joy and make you lose track of time. Ask yourself: What am I naturally good at? What do I enjoy doing, even if I’m not getting paid for it? By identifying what excites you, you can better understand the unique gifts you bring to the world.


Try journaling for a week about the moments when you feel most alive. Look for patterns and connections that point to where your passions and skills intersect.


2. Listen to your inner voice

Our inner voice often knows more about what we need than we realize. This inner guidance gets buried under obligations, expectations, and the voices of others. Spend quiet moments each day—whether through meditation, breathing exercises, or a walk in nature—just listening to yourself. What thoughts keep coming up? What dreams and desires are trying to get your attention?


This practice can help you sift through the noise and hear what’s truly important to you. And remember, it’s okay if this voice leads you in a new, unexpected direction!


3. Reflect on life’s challenges and lessons

Our toughest experiences can be powerful teachers. Think back on challenges you've faced and ask yourself: What did I learn from this? How did it shape who I am today? Often, our purpose is born from these moments of growth and resilience.


For example, someone who has overcome a health struggle may feel drawn to help others on their healing journeys. Finding purpose doesn’t always come from what you’ve achieved but from the unique wisdom and empathy you’ve gained along the way.


4. Consider who you want to serve

Sometimes, our purpose is found in serving others. Ask yourself who you feel a natural connection to or who you’re inspired to help. This might be a specific group—children, seniors, animals, or people facing particular challenges—or it might be a general urge to support your community.


Serving others can bring profound meaning and satisfaction. Start small, by volunteering or reaching out to someone in need. This can open doors to new passions, and you may find yourself discovering a purpose you hadn’t anticipated.


5. Take small, purpose-driven actions

Finding your purpose doesn’t have to mean taking a massive leap into the unknown. Purpose can grow through small, meaningful actions. Try to add a little purpose to your daily routine by doing something each day that connects with what you value. This could be writing, helping a friend, or learning about something that sparks your curiosity.


As you take these steps, pay attention to how they make you feel. Purpose isn’t just a destination—it’s a feeling. The more you engage in activities that resonate with you, the clearer your sense of purpose will become.


Final Thoughts

Finding purpose isn’t always easy, but it’s incredibly rewarding. It’s not about having everything figured out but being willing to explore, reflect, and listen to what resonates deeply with you. Purpose evolves, just as we do, and staying open to where it may lead can bring a whole new level of richness to your life.


I hope these strategies help you take those first steps, or even just tiny steps, toward a life of greater meaning and joy. Here’s to a life filled with purpose!

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