“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” — Maya Angelou
Ever wondered how some people remain so calm in the face of adversity? Balanced in their behavior, their responses, their thoughts, and their approach to life. I used to think, “Oh well, they were just born that way.”
But the truth is far from this. This is a skill that can be taught, practiced, fine-tuned, and brought to life. And this is not a new concept.
The Bhagavad Gita, an ancient Hindu scripture, talks about the Yoga of Equanimity (Samatva Yoga), which involves maintaining a balanced and composed state of mind regardless of external circumstances.
Here are some valuable lessons from this timeless book of wisdom that can help us cultivate a state of blissful equanimity in our modern lives:
Perform your duty without attachment to results (Karma Yoga): The Bhagavad Gita teaches us to focus on the actions we take, not on the fruits they bear. This means doing our best in every task, driven by purpose and intention, but without being consumed by anxiety over the outcome. By detaching ourselves from the desire for a particular result, we can experience greater peace, knowing we have done our part with sincerity and integrity.
Maintain equanimity in both success and failure: Life is a continuous flow of ups and downs, and the Gita reminds us to accept both with an even mind. Whether we achieve great success or face setbacks, we should not let either sway us from our inner calm. Instead of being overly elated in victory or devastated by defeat, we can practice viewing each situation as an opportunity for growth and learning, recognizing that both are fleeting and do not define our true selves.
Embrace the present moment fully: The Gita encourages us to live fully in the present, without being weighed down by regrets of the past or anxieties about the future. By focusing on what is within our control right now, we can find peace in the here and now. This practice helps us break free from the patterns of worry and distraction that often pull us away from the joy and beauty of each moment, allowing us to live more consciously and intentionally.
Some practical tips for cultivating calm
Here are some practical strategies that have helped me stay calm in a chaotic world:
Start with breathwork: Simple breathing exercises, like inhaling for four counts, holding for four, and exhaling for four, can instantly calm the nervous system. It’s like hitting the reset button.
Create a daily ritual: Whether it's a morning walk, journaling, or sipping tea in silence, find a daily ritual that grounds you. This small practice can become a sanctuary in the middle of a busy day.
Practice gratitude: Each day, I write down three things I’m grateful for. It shifts my focus from what’s wrong to what’s right, fostering a sense of calm and contentment.
Limit information overload: We are constantly bombarded with information. Set boundaries around your media consumption, and be intentional about the content you consume.
Connect with nature: Spending time outdoors, even if it’s just a few minutes, can do wonders for your state of mind. Nature has a calming effect that can help you feel grounded and centered.
Prioritize sleep and nutrition: Our bodies are our homes. When we nourish them with good food and rest, they can better handle stress. I make sure to get enough sleep, eat balanced meals, and stay hydrated.
Seek support and share your story: Talking about what’s weighing on your heart with someone you trust can provide immense relief. Don’t carry the burden alone; reach out and share your story.
Finding calm is a journey, not a destination
Staying calm in a chaotic world is not about achieving some perfect state of Zen. It’s about finding moments of peace amid the noise, practicing compassion toward ourselves, and knowing that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed at times.
The world may never stop spinning, but we can learn to dance with it in our unique way. Remember, finding calm is not a one-time achievement; it’s a daily practice—a journey worth taking.
What are some ways you find calm in your life? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Let’s learn from each other and continue on this journey toward peace together.
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